Take a Break


Do you ever wonder if there is something that you could do to prevent your child from melting down? Each situation is different, so there is no definitive answer to that question. We have learned, over a decade of experience, that catching a tantrum before it gets out of hand is our best preventative strategy.

You might be wondering if that’s even possible.

We have all been in that situation, where your child goes from zero to five hundred immediately. It can be really embarrassing when you’re out in public and downright infuriating when you at home. We have 3 words for you that could change the way you handle your child’s escalating emotions;


What does a break look like?

For some situations, kids need a quiet place to recollect themselves. They may need a book or a blanket, a snack or a snuggle. For other situations, kids need to get out and run. But sometimes running with hype them up, so they need a quick core-engaging workout – like crunches or planking. A “break” is something quick that a child can do to get their body and brain realigned to learn or be part of a group.

So, how do these words impact your daily life?

(1) Be aware of your child’s triggers. If he loses control at birthday parties or events with a lot of people around, prevention is your best medicine. Keep your attendance short at these events – try staying for 45 minutes only, catching the most important parts. Give your child frequent breaks during the event – even if he looks like he has it together. Breaks help kids be more successful.

(2) Remove your emotional involvement in the heat of the moment. If you find your anxiety level rising with your child’s energy – all you need to say is 3 words – Take a Break. Provide a place and a plan for “break times” at home and out of the house. Create a calm space for your child to go, pre-approved activities to be done in the calm space and an expectation that the space will be used appropriately.

(3) Incorporate breaks into the “together” times of the day. We aim to remove the connotation of “time out” when it comes to breaks. The best breaks are ones that are preventative, not punitive.

(4) Use fewer words! For the sake of processing, give directions using the fewest words possible. The phrase, “Take a Break” holds an expectation and direction all in one.

If you have any questions about this post, feel free to contact us on info@kahlonfamilyservices.com